success

The Age of Success

“But nobody is going to take me seriously. They’re just going to look down on me because I’m younger than them and think that I don’t have enough experience,” she said. I looked into her questioning eyes and knew the familiar fear she was facing. 

There has been a common theme that has come up in multiple conversations with different people this past week that I would like to address-and that is the fear of not being able to make a real impact because you’re “too young”. 

First of all, where did we get the notion that the impact you can have in the world is defined by your age? Is it because most people we see “succeeding” or having the life we want are older than us? If that’s the case, we need to understand our own perceived definition of success. The problem is, success is not quantifiable because it looks and feels different to everyone. What one might consider success to be a big home, fancy car, and high paying job, another might consider success to be raising their family with strong values, or volunteering, or just doing something they're passionate about because it brings them joy.

Given that success cannot be measured in numbers, it is not restricted by age either. Gifts and God-given talents are in each and every single one of us. I think of the show, “The Voice,” for example. You have someone who may be 50 years old and insanely talented with a grit so raw it cuts to your heart. You also have 15 year olds with voices so angelic it sends chills down your spine and you immediately want to jump on iTunes and download their song. I’ve never heard anybody tell the 15 year old “you’re good, but you’re too young to win this competition because you don’t have enough experience.” No, they’ve got raw, natural talent and they are loved for it. They touch the heart of the listener just as deeply as the 50 year old does.

Gifting is gifting. It doesn’t matter how old you are, what degrees you have, how much experience in one particular setting you have—what counts is your gift, your unique ability to know exactly how to soar in your specific role, combined with an undeniable passion.

If it’s on your heart, it’s there because it’s connected to your purpose. When you live your truth and do it from a place of passion, people are drawn to you…you stand out because you’re not afraid to be authentically and unapologetically you while owning your gifts. Know your truth! You are not too young, or too old for that matter, to do anything you desire to do. You just have to take the first step, then let the results speak for themselves.

Let your passion burn brighter than your fears. Remember, decisions are magnified with joy when they’re fueled by passion.

-D

Life Is Too Short To Exist, It's Time to Live!

Have you ever had a desire in your heart that you really wanted to do, but never did it because fear held you back? Something that has been in the back of your mind for so long and you always tell yourself “maybe one day when I do _____ first” (fill in the blank), or before I do that, I have to achieve this, that, and that other thing first or I won’t be ready. I’ve been there too, and let me tell you, you will never be ‘ready’. There is no perfect time. Excuses will paralyze you if you let them. The time to start what you’re passionate about, what brings you ultimate excitement, and pure joy, is now!

I look back on life and think about how many wonderful things I could have been a part of or accomplished already if I hadn’t let fear hold me back. Fear of not being smart enough, or pretty enough, or fit enough, or experienced enough, or whatever other lies we are fed about not being “enough” or “ready”.

The truth is, you are already enough. God of the universe crafted you so beautifully to live out the purpose of the desires He so carefully put in your soul. That thing you’ve always wanted to do? That desire is in your heart for a reason. That place you’ve always wanted to go to? You want to go there because your soul knows there’s something magical there for you to experience. That business you’ve always wanted to start? It’s because you’re perfect for it, the gifts you have are going to be used and magnified when you do it because it’s fueled by passion. You are more than enough. You ARE ready.

The world needs what you have to give. Maybe you’re held back because you think there’s already so many people doing what you want to do…that may be true, but they are not you. They don’t have your unique talents, they don’t see beauty through the same lens as you do, they don’t have the same life experiences that have shaped them, they don’t have your brain or your heart, and they do not have your soul.

Beautifully magical things are created from the soul, and when your soul is on fire, you are unstoppable. What’s stopping you? I challenge you to tear down the walls of the lies your ego has fed you and step into the fullest extent of your purpose. Your heart already knows the way, just surrender. Allow.

When I left the corporate world to start my coaching business, I was taking a huge risk—and anyone who knows me can attest that I am not a risk taker by nature. Thoughts flooded my mind like “why on Earth would you leave your guaranteed salary and secured job to start a business when you have no idea what will come of it?! Are you crazy, Danielle?! What are people going to think of you to leave everything you’ve worked so hard for??” 

I battled with thoughts like these for months on end. The thought of stepping into the unknown was SO scary. But you know what was even scarier to me? The thought of living the same year over and over again and calling it a life.

I didn’t want to keep living in a passive state of wishing it was the future and getting through my days by looking forward to the weekend, or the next fun event, or a trip, etc. I wanted to live each day with passion and joy and know that I was living out my true purpose. I didn't want to merely exist anymore, I wanted to actually live; and live a life I was totally in love with, a life that lights me up every.single.day. by using my gifts to impact the individuals I come in contact with in a real and transforming way. 

If I, the type “A”, recovering perfectionist, who thrived on stability and knowing the plan, could take a leap of faith, so can you!! I believe in you. You don’t have to have it all figured out to move forward, just take a step. I promise you, when you leap, the net will appear. Don’t waste another day to begin doing what you’ve always wanted to do. Go full force into what sets your soul on fire-I dare you.

-D